For the last time she’s a girl !
Now I’m starting to get a little annoyed by the amount of people referring to Ava as a boy . Surely if you don’t know the child and it’s not obvious then don’t refer to their sex .
Personally I think Ava looks like a girl . I think she has really feminine features . So it really annoys me when people say ” what a cute little boy “. I have even gone to the extreme of dressing her in very gender specific colour in order to stop this gender confusion . Did this help ? Did it boat . The other day she was dressed all in pink and a gentleman still said ” gosh your little boy is so alert ”
When Ava was first born it really didn’t bother me that much . As it can be really hard to tell when they are babies . But not now !
I have started to correct people now . Most seem mortified and apologise straight away . Which I normally brush off and tell them not to worry about it . But today I had a totally difference response . When I told the lady she was a girl she then responded . So why dress her in boys things. To which I replied she is wearing a blue dress !!. The lady then gave me a very evil look and Walked off as if I had done something wrong.
I hate the fact I felt the needed to dress her in pink or explain to people she is a girl . I’m sure when she has more hair it won’t be questioned . I think people shouldn’t presume a child’s gender just incase.
15 Comments
Happy Mummy
I have recently been on the other side to this! We were in a restaurant and Miss H pointed to a child’s toy, I said that’s that little girls babe, then looked closely at the child & said to the mum oh sorry I didn’t he was a bit – to which she replied she’s a girl. I was mortified! I won’t making any assumptions of gender based on anything from now on, I can only imagine that most people who had got it wrong (obviously not the person who challenged you but most) must feel the same as me x
admin
Gosh we have all been there at some point . It’s he constant having to say no she is a girl which is annoying . X
Faye jones
Faye will come and beat them up! How dare they about my beauty!!! She’s always a princess! Xxx
admin
Aww she does love her Faye ! X
Let your light shine Mummy
Wow that lady’s comment was ridiculous. I have a little boy, his hair is not that long, but curly. He wears obvious boy clothes and people still says he’s a little girl. I’m like, Seriously?! People really need to use some common sense. Gets me every time. Xx fortheloveofBLOG
admin
Yes !!! Or just not refer to gender that’s what I tend to do unless it’s blatantly clear . x
Themotherhub
I did have a few comments with my daughter, especially when I dressed her in blue . It’s crazy that we assume only boys wear blue. Sometimes I didn’t bother correcting them – it doesn’t matter to me, they’re total strangers ! #fortheloveofblog
admin
It didn’t used to bother me. It’s like a daily occurrence now so is wearing thin. My daughter has red hair so colours like blue and green really suit both her hair and her skin !
Catherine Evans
Yes, I have a little Ava too who has very little hair! A man stopped me to tell me my little boy was cute, and when I corrected him he asked me why she was wearing boy’s trousers? Oh, do you mean the jeans with pink flowers on them, that I am also wearing?!
It infuriates me! #fortheloveofblog
admin
Yay for Ava’s !!! It’s like girls should be in pink frilly outfits !! X
Angela Watling
YES! This always happens with my daughter and it drives me CRAZY! I forgave people when she was young. As you said, it’s hard to tell. She’s 19 months now and yesterday it happened again. She has quite (I think) feminine features and she has chin length wavy hair. But…hold on…she was wearing BLUE SHORTS. *Gasp*
Admittedly they were boys shorts but that’s only because girls shorts are so flimsy and short. I got the boys ones because they are better for her playing outside.
Everyone needs to stop stereotyping by clothes type and colour! #fortheloveofBLOG
admin
I’m so with you on this !!! It’s so annoying isn’t it . Glad It’s not just me being over sensitive x
Emma (Upside Mum)
I get this with my girl too. She has bright pink shoes and a pink peppa pig jacket plus a hairband in at times and people still say it! I’m like ‘are you blind?!’ It’s different if the child is wrapped up and clothing is t obvious but people must realise if they are wearing pink they are most likely a girl! I feel your pain. #fortheloveofBLOG
The Pramshed
This hasn’t happened to me, but it happened to one of my friends daughters who had to constantly correct everyone that she was a girl, when people said “ooh what a lovely boy”. There really should be no gender stereotypical conversations unless you know the parent, or are 100% sure of your sex. Ava is beautiful, please don’t worry what other people think or say. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire
admin
Thank you . X